I just had a very odd thing happen.

I was getting gas at the gas station just off the highway, and the alarm at the (closed) gas station across the street was going off, and I was looking in that direction, trying to figure out what was going on. As I did so, a white pickup truck pulled out of the gas station I was in, and a baseball-capped guy in the passenger seat said, “[my type of car] are for faggots. Get a Toyota, bitch.” Then they sped off.

I’ve gone from puzzled to bewildered to afraid to curious to puzzled again in the space of the ten minutes or so since this happened. I’ve never been insulted before on the basis of the kind of car I drive. Part of me is confused that anyone — anyone — would care what sort of car I drive enough to insult me. Part of me, a small part, is slightly outraged, and a still smaller part is vaguely put off. I like my car, but I never thought I would be on the receiving end of hate speech as a result of owning it.

Tonight I lay in the arms of my lover, and I cupped her breasts in my hands, felt her heart beat below my fingertips. Blessings be upon you, you men who hold your lover’s balls as you lie in bed, who hear hate and fear in the voices of passers-by, and yet choose to love. My prayers are with you this night, for I see through a mirror darkly the great shadow that hangs over your path.

8 comments

  1. Ummmm

    There’s just so much ignorance in his remark it’s not even funny.

    From the Scion web site: “A marque of Toyota Motor Sales USA, Inc”

    Your Scion is a Toyota. I’ll be it even says so in your owner’s manual or vehicle ID sticker if you look hard enough.

    Kelle has this thing where she tells people “YOU’RE PURPLE” in an angry voice. They just look at her, incredulous, and certainly NOT insulted. Why aren’t they insulted? Because they know they’re not purple… and even if they were, what difference to them would it make? This is an excellent lesson on self esteem in terms of not caring what other people say or think. If you know (insert negative description here) isn’t true, then someone calling you that can’t hurt you. You have to give them this power. It comes from insecurity. Know this, and next time it will likely bounce right off.

    Now, as for the bigotry of the remark generally, regardless of whether you thought this guy was personally calling you an epithet, well, I don’t really know what to say to people who say things like that. They’re ignorant and bigoted and they probably like themselves that way.

    This really is a good question. How does one talk to such people?

  2. Ummmm

    There’s just so much ignorance in his remark it’s not even funny.

    From the Scion web site: “A marque of Toyota Motor Sales USA, Inc”

    Your Scion is a Toyota. I’ll be it even says so in your owner’s manual or vehicle ID sticker if you look hard enough.

    Kelle has this thing where she tells people “YOU’RE PURPLE” in an angry voice. They just look at her, incredulous, and certainly NOT insulted. Why aren’t they insulted? Because they know they’re not purple… and even if they were, what difference to them would it make? This is an excellent lesson on self esteem in terms of not caring what other people say or think. If you know (insert negative description here) isn’t true, then someone calling you that can’t hurt you. You have to give them this power. It comes from insecurity. Know this, and next time it will likely bounce right off.

    Now, as for the bigotry of the remark generally, regardless of whether you thought this guy was personally calling you an epithet, well, I don’t really know what to say to people who say things like that. They’re ignorant and bigoted and they probably like themselves that way.

    This really is a good question. How does one talk to such people?

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